Help, My Favorite TV Show Is Perpetuating Rape Culture!

“When a subject is highly controversial – and any question about sex is that – one cannot hope to tell the truth. One can only show how one came to hold whatever opinion one does hold.” Virginia WoolfA Room Of One’s Own

I watched Outlander today. Season two, episode seven: Faith. This post contains SPOILERS for Outlander up to that episode. It also contains my opinion on some controversial issues, so be warned. This post is not suitable for minors.

I fear my favorite TV show is perpetuating rape culture. Allow me to clarify. Outlander, its historical setting, its penchant for far-fetched dramatic plot twists and, above all, its swashbuckling hero Jamie Fraser, have conquered a place in my fangirling heart.

Every Tuesday, after the new episode of Outlander has appeared on HBO On Demand, I take an hour to watch it, and this hour is usually entertaining. I end up biting my nails, pulling my hair, and whispering “No, no no this can’t be happening!” each time. All in all, exactly what you want from a television show.

Outlander is notorious for its frank dealings with sexual scenes. To me, this seemed at first to be a selling point. A TV show from a female point of view that has sex scenes in it? A show that depicts women as hot-blooded creatures full of sexual desire? Hell yes. And with a leading man that handsome. HELL YEAH.

The first season of Outlander did not disappoint. There was sex. There was this adorable bit of pillow talk:

Jamie: “Did ye like it?”

Claire: “Yes, I did.”

Jamie: “Oh. I thought ye did, though Murtagh told me that women generally do not care for it, so I should finish as soon as I could.”

Claire: “What would Murtagh know about it?”

(Gasp) Is that…a woman admitting she enjoys sex? On a TV show? Round of applause, ladies and gentlemen.

But the last episode of season one, To Ransom A Man’s Soul, brought a whole new dimension to the dreamlike romantic drama of Outlander. In this episode, everyone’s favorite Scotsman Jamie is tortured both physically and psychologically, and raped by his worst enemy, Captain Randall. There had been the threat of rape before, when Claire was abducted by the Captain, but that time, Jamie had come to the rescue. Then there had been the almost-rape of Jamie’s sister Jenny, which she had averted by getting a fit of the giggles. The resulting scene had been unnerving, to say the least.

Now, in season 2’s seventh episode, Faith, there were two portrayals of rape. In the first, Captain Randall was the perpetrator once more, and the victim was a young boy. The second was when Claire, in exchange for Jamie’s release from prison, allowed the king of France to sleep with her. In a sense, she consented to it. However, she was clearly uncomfortable and dismayed by the act. She expressed later that she felt violated. In my opinion, this type of power play is just as much a rape scene as these other scenes I described above.

Now, you might say that a historical TV show of this caliber has a responsibility to portray history accurately. Denying, for example, the holocaust, or the ill treatment of African slaves, or the poor position of women in 18th century society, is a crime. If we gloss over the nastier parts of world history in this way, we might forget about the mistakes humanity has made, and make them again. I agree with this assessment, and to portray Claire Fraser as a character with the same amount of agency and power as her male counterparts on Outlander, would be a gross denial of the inequality women have faced and fought for centuries.

That said, let me tell you something about rape culture.

Wikipedia states: “Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, refusing to acknowledge the harm caused by some forms of sexual violence, or some combination of these.”

Read the full article here.

The most pervasive of these attitudes in Outlander, I think, is trivializing rape. Rape is just another one of the things considered normal in this brutish society of violence and power play. It is a way to assert dominance, on par with punching someone in the face. The psychological trauma inflicted by rape is often overlooked. For example, Jamie, in my opinion, took an unusually short amount of time to get over the fact that he was raped by Randall.

Jamie does, however, suffer from toxic masculinity, the exceptionally high social pressure put on men within rape culture. To be stronger than his wife, to physically protect her, to sexually satisfy her, to provide for her. His rape is even more shameful than Claire’s, because it makes him submissive in a culture that expects men to be dominant. Yet he allows Randall to rape him in exchange for Claire’s safety, due to the expectation that a husband protects his wife at any cost.

“But it’s a TV show!” you say. “It’s not real. Everybody watching it knows it is fictional, and most people also know that rape was a part of the culture portrayed on the show. We don’t take it all that seriously!”

I disagree. What we see on TV and what we consider normal in real life is closely related. We are, I hope, all aware that rape is not okay. But are we also aware that it isn’t okay for women to use sex as a bartering chip? Are we aware that women and men are equal, and that there is no gender naturally submissive to the other? I’m afraid some of the finer points of equality escape some of those watching Outlander. I am afraid that those of us sexually aroused by lack of consent in sex scenes are slowly starting to consider rape okay.

As long as rape culture is a serious problem in our actual society, any portrayal of behaviors that enforce rape culture in the media are harmful to us all.



8 thoughts on “Help, My Favorite TV Show Is Perpetuating Rape Culture!

  1. The Was says:

    Interesting. I’ll add a little something to that, though. (i) Rape and ‘rape culture’ are not the same thing; and (ii) arousal and a politically correct view of rape are not related.

    Re the (i). Rape is just a sub-species of violence, and therefor your show basically lures its viewers with the depiction of violence. That is not the same thing as promoting ‘rape culture’ any more than ‘Batman’ is promoting walking around with a cape and a funny hat. Rape culture is all about the way society really works, not about the depiction of violence as entertainment.

    Re the (ii). You write – and I quote – “I am afraid that those of us sexually aroused by lack of consent in sex scenes are slowly starting to consider rape okay”. Wrong! People get sexually aroused by many things and THAT IS OKAY. Our sexual fantasies don’t care for reality, or for being politically correct. You’re saying that to find a rape scene exciting implies being okay with actual rape, and of course it isn’t.

    The question you really should ponder is: why do people – yourself included – find it so very attractive to look at depictions of violence and sex, and why does polite society have such a problem with actual violence and actual sex?

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    • thefrenchinhaler says:

      First of all, thank you for taking the time to read and respond. You make an excellent point about rape being a sub-species of violence.

      However I disagree with you a little bit. I wasn’t “saying that to find a rape scene exciting implies being okay with actual rape,” or at least, I wasn’t trying to say that. If I did, I apologize for giving the wrong impression. I wrote I was afraid people were “slowly starting to consider rape okay,” and I am still afraid of that. I think what the media portrays has a huge impact on the view we have of the real world, and I think repeated portrayals of rape on television will slowly make our response to it less and less intense. And as we start to consider it a less intense form of violation, it might slowly enter into our consciousness that this is something we, ourselves, in the real world, can do.

      Of course the complexity of this issue is huge. I also think that watching portrayals of your darkest sexual fantasies can be an excellent way of ensuring you don’t abuse others in your desire to make them come true. But the danger is, of course, that in order to feed your desires you need more and more stimulation and eventually fiction isn’t enough for you anymore. That’s part of what I’m afraid of, too.

      Furthermore, I’m completely fine with whatever kind of fantasy scenario people come up with for themselves, even if they decide to toy with the boundaries of consent. The point is, though, that they should always be able to decide for themselves.

      You make an excellent point asking that final question: “why do people – yourself included – find it so very attractive to look at depictions of violence and sex, and why does polite society have such a problem with actual violence and actual sex?”

      You’ve provided me food for thought, and I love it. Maybe I’ll address this question in a future post. It puzzles me.




  2. sometimesmagical says:

    It’s nothing new for rape to be considered a “normal” and even “erotic” part of patriarchal story-telling. I’ve been horrified watching famously popular 80s movies that have rapey scenes in them as just part of the romantic plot without any acknowledgement that there is a lack of consent. Books too. I just stopped reading a book by Christopher Moore because his character deceived a woman who thought she was having sex with someone else. While I am adamant that not all porn is this way and some of it can be ethical and feminist, there is a deplorable amount of porn that uses power and control or force as part of the erotic tension. Possibly the most disturbing way that rape culture plays out in our media is in our rating system. A movie with a prolonged rape scene can have a rating of PG-13 for some bizarre reason, but a scene that portrays a woman consensually enjoying sex, having someone go down on her, or having sex with another woman is somehow so “bad” that it gets rated R or higher. No joke. We have shows (American Horror Story for one) that seem to revolve around sexual violence as the main plot theme throughout every episode. It’s sick and fucked up. It’s also a horribly tired trope and signals, in my mind, very low creativity. Especially with regard to historic dramas, if the only thing a writer can think to throw in as a conflict point is rape, they lack imagination.


    • thefrenchinhaler says:

      Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Do you live in the US? Because I’m not very familiar with your rating system but I’ve had people tell me before that it’s skewed in this way.

      I’ve always shied away from American Horror Story. Its very idea terrifies me.

      I also agree with you that rape signifies a lack of imagination on the part of the creative minds.


      • sometimesmagical says:

        Yes I live in the US. I’m not familiar with rating systems outside of the US but I do know that other countries aren’t always as uptight about sex in general. It really doesn’t make sense to me how violence can be so acceptable in movies here but mutual pleasure is somehow more taboo.


      • thefrenchinhaler says:

        That’s exactly what bothers me, that women being hurt is somehow deemed less disturbing than women being pleasured.

        I live in the Netherlands and though I never studied our rating system I’m pretty sure it’s more laid back about sex and nudity.


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